Pet Power Dynamic

“Good morning pet”.

That is the message I receive daily after addressing my Domme and saying good morning. Being new to BDSM, pet play was not my initial thought with BDSM dynamics. Defining pet roleplay involves splitting the concept of pet play into variations. For some folks, it is a role play where a submissive is collared and behaves like a dog or kitten. This version plays more into animal roleplay, which is not what I am involved in. 

What is a Pet Power Dynamic?

Rather than animal roleplay, I submit to my Domme via obedience and loyalty. At the early stages of our play, my name was simply “good boy.” I was not fully committed and sidestepped the idea that I wanted to become owned officially. For context, in previous dynamics, I always had a brat side. Poachers and time wasters on social media? They were met with full brat energy, and both me and my Domme laughed as I wasted their time, as they did not bother to check my bio. 

Once I took a break and stepped out of dynamics, I lost that sense of confidence and belief. And when it came to expressing how I felt at the start of my current D/S relationship, I could not do it. I knew I was her good boy but not her pet, at least not yet. One evening, it came to a head. I had officially disrespected Her by lying and was met with a punishment: writing 200 lines. That is when the switch flipped in my head; it was now or never. 

Over two hours, my lines were finished and presented to her. From that point, the play changed; I was her pet, her good boy. I earned the pet title by showing obedience and devotion to the punishment, as I immediately started on them without hesitation. The concept behind how I am a submissive pet is simple: listen, listen, listen. My Domme is my trainer, my master, and most importantly, she holds my collar. A collar in BDSM is an item of clothing or object worn by a submissive that signifies their status as a submissive in a D/s relationship. In my case, I wear socks that adorn my Dommes name, and a Mets sweatshirt to work (I am a diehard Yankees fan). 

How Being Owned Built Confidence

Wearing both collars is special, but the Mets sweatshirt truly signifies what my Domme means to me. Remember how I mentioned the importance of listening and obedience as a pet? During the initial phases of our dynamic, I struggled greatly with that concept. Constantly worrying, lacking confidence, and not taking my Dommes words to heart made the dynamic initially difficult to navigate. After two sub drops within a week, I still had trouble with my poise and embracing what my Domme had to say. 

After numerous conversations that involved processing and reframing my thoughts, things began to click. I learned to respond efficiently to what my Domme had to say and allowed her to lead with trust and honesty. The Mets sweatshirt was initially a punishment for disobedience but later signified something much more. It symbolizes me embracing my role as a pet whilst knowing where to push myself to improve. The collar represents a constant reminder from my Domme to trust her to lead and guide.  

My brat side slowly started to return, and my pet role changed. I went from a Chihuahua pissing itself at the first sign of trouble to a Pitbull, collared and ready to heel on command. I have gone back to making smart remarks to poachers and timewasters. I also joke around confidently in my training class at work, and overall, I feel confident and proud of my status as my Domme's pet.